Libido Ponderings

[kokopelle]

Sometimes I wonder what we old(er) people are suppose to do with the whole sex thing. When getting a full nights sleep and getting through the day with minimal pain becomes more important than sex, does this mean that the biological imperative of procreation has passed us by? Are we left with a joke that has a cynical punchline? I wonder.

Comments

[valkyriur.livejournal.com]

I currently can't imagine that. In fact, it kinda saddens me when I hear some of my older friends say "it's not so important when you get older", when I hear that note in their voice that's saying "actually it does". I really don't know, but I guess I'll learn more as I grow older.

[apocalypsegrrl.livejournal.com]

As I'm not older, I can't really say, but considering that most of the time my health problems leave me feeling like a 70-year old, here's my two cents anyway.

I've had a lot of problems with sex growing up. For most of my teenage years I was riddled with bad arthritis and even in college, I had to keep a very careful reign on my body since I got sick and tired very easily. Then came the chemo treatments and my libido has pretty much been moldering in its grave ever since (not to mention being riddled with scars doesn't exactly make me more eager to throw my clothes off in front of people). Then again, I'm not dating and don't have a partner available, so for me it's not really a problem.

The way I look at it, even if the "biological imperative" might has passed, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't or can't still enjoy some sex. I mean, strictly speaking art isn't biological, neither is television or going out to nice tea house for a cup- it's an activity I enjoy doing. If I don't do those things very often, it can suck, but it's not the end of the world. Maybe its the attitude about the place of sex that could use some changing. Instead of using it as a measuring stick of your vitality or vigor or whatever, try seeing it as just a fun activity- do it and enjoy it when you can, but don't dwell on it if you're not feeling up to it. I guess you could just try to experiment and find something that suits your life right now.

[valkyriur.livejournal.com]

Instead of using it as a measuring stick of your vitality or vigor or whatever, try seeing it as just a fun activity- do it and enjoy it when you can, but don't dwell on it if you're not feeling up to it.

I agree with that.

[chimerae.livejournal.com]

Quality over quantity

Artistry over impulse

Age requires shifting sails but that skillfulness and focused intent opens up whole new vistas not available to those just splashing joyously in the surf.

Part of the art is to let go of the definintion of sex established at before 20.