A Big Puzzle

[kokopelle]

I am in a situation that does not seem to have an answer. What can a person do when there is one person in their life against which they are powerless? The depth of this power causes one to want to hit the reset switch of life.

Sigh... any ideas???

Comments

[breimh.livejournal.com]

A sense of powerlessness can be a serious problem that you refuse to focus on the cause of. Another possibility could be that you feel powerless, but are really the one in control, amost a sufi-istic type of empowerment. Such situations are bst handled through examination of the situation, and the self, to find a ne approach of how to deal with the feeling of powerlessness and any ill effects there might be brewing within the relationship.

If there's no other recourse, and no healthy answer/direction can be achieved in the relationshp, then going your seperate ways is best... whether it be for a set amount of time, or perminently.

[stargazercmc.livejournal.com]

I don't believe anyone is powerless. I believe that most people in a bad situation concerning someone else (for whatever reason) don't want to give up the power that person holds over them. The motivation for that can be varied.

For example, I'm Virgo, and you know I can hold a grudge. In order to do so, though, I have to let other people maintain some slight power over me. While in some instances, it would be healthier for me to let it all go, I feel that the lesson learned from the bad experience would go with it. I have to weigh the two things against each other and figure out which is more substantial in my life: the lesson or oblivion to that person's power.

So I guess what I'm saying is why does that person hold power over you? I think if you look, you'll find it's because you let them. What you do with that realization is ultimately up to you.

[r-monoxide.livejournal.com]

Well it all depends on the situation. In the past I've found that the best I can do is just not play their games. For me it has been in work situations, feeling disempowered because I'm female and feeling disempowered because of my socio-economic class status. As they say in Berkeley, "drop out, turn on, tune in."

[wulfwalker.livejournal.com]

Wow, that is soo vague... what kind of situation? financial, business, work or personal? OR does it blend into more than one of these areas. Are you truly powerless or merely fearful of the repercussions (real or imagined) of doing what needs to be done? Most control freaks (like me) when they encounter a situation where they have to abrogate control even for a short period, are uncomfortable. Fears, IMO, are things that because of their very nature engage our most primative instincts. To be powerless is to lack all control or ability to exercise control over a situation, thing or person. This is very scary and may make us feel weak/helpless, which starts the cycle spinning more out of control. Sit back, evaluate, try to sum up pros and cons and THEN act. You make me wrong, but you are no longer powerless.

[wulfwalker.livejournal.com]

OOPS, sorry that should say "you MAY be wrong, but you are no longer powerless." because you did act.