kokopelle: Frank n Furter (frank_n_furter)
The “Real Man” phenomenon is fascinating to me. It seems to be a mixture of religious values, warrior culture, and a dash of decency. The most interesting aspect of the phenomenon is that it seems to be compiled and promoted by males of a specific racial / religious / cultural origin. With these origins, how does being a real man work in pragmatic practice? My poem “Be a Real Man” is a very preliminary look at the possible answers to this question.


Be a Real Man
Poem for Day 192 – 20150711

If I could be a real man,
not a boy nor a fake,
I wonder what I would be,
what higher state I would attain.
A set of contradictions,
finally tuned waiting to break.
More real than reality can stand,
standards laid at my feet of clay.

My humor and creativeness
comes from knowing perversity.
Sustained depravity is my insight,
wisdom of a world shared by all.
Would you want me to be more,
or less than what I truly am?
To be greater than myself,
losing those things you admire.

Forced to strip away half myself
to be the whole you clamor for.
Realness achieved at the costly price
of removing the human parts of me.
Here I stand, perhaps a man,
shaped by life's many trials.
A sum of parts earned with blood
greater than your epiphany.

Am I real, do I meet the goal,
or am I outside your reality?
Realness on the surface perhaps,
scratch and you'll find much more.
If I could be a real man,
I'd be less than what I am now.
If I could be a real man,
I'd loose my claim to humanity.

© 2015, Sean Green. All Rights Reserved.
kokopelle: Black Cat (cat black)
Just / My Type (http://justmytype.ca/) is a powerful blog written by an insightful woman in Vancouver. She has written articles on the differences between girls and women, boys and men.

Lifted from the articles:

These are some stark differences and cover a lot of ground. I find it interesting that the Man and Woman share the same characteristics. The Girl and Boy differ. Can that be right? Do Men and Women converge into a singular set of attainable virtues with the only difference being Women are ambitious and Men know their worth / value?

I wonder when the transition from girl to woman or boy to man occurs on average. Everyone is different, but what are the odds of finding anybody having these attributes under the age of 25, 30, ???. What triggers the change? If parents can't instill these virtues, are the young adults doomed until the hard knocks of life bang the virtues into them? I wonder.

There is a time in life to make mistakes and grow. My heart goes out to anybody under 30. I remember the trials and tribulations that I went through, and they continue through all of life, even when you are going on 50! The challenge of articles like this is that they may display a black and white version what a suitable mate may look like. IMO a 100% man or woman is incredibly rare by these standards. Is 75% or 80% or even 95% OK? Does a person have to be 100% to attract another 100%, or can two 75% people get together and learn together? I think so. What all that said, the blogs do an excellent job of describing a very complicated process in a very small amount of room. Complete coverage does, and have, taken the contents of a book to attempt to cover.

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