kokopelle: (rural house)
I found a blog entry that I entered way back in October of 2006.  It speaks to the paradox of trust and human behavior and how intuition helps mediate the insanity... until my emotions intrude!  An update... I still struggle with the past!

From October of 2006:

Can we trust others? Consider the following "truths":

1) People are inherently selfish. Some of them very much so.
2) Spidey senses are valid when the intuition is properly plugged into the world
3) The things we find most distressing about others (i.e. being untrustworthy) are often manifestations of how we see ourselves.
4) Emotional memories can last longer than intellectual memories.

What does that say about us human type people? We are confused paradoxes.

How does this fit together? I've found that acknowledging my human weakness (#3) mellows me to the asses that other people can be (#1). The Spidey senses (#2) help me get through situations that are black-n-white (like what is???). It's #4 that still kicks me in the butt, and this is what I struggle with. I do OK with current relationships. I take the lumps with those who have "wronged" me in the past. Forgive? Maybe. Forget? I'll think about it. That's what my emotional side says.
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A recent event got me thinking about faith and trust. Some back ground is kept purposely vague to protect the parties!

Nearly twenty years ago I met a wonderful young lady and we had a series of adventures over a number of years. While the events flirted with the edge of intimacy, the relationship was platonic and has remained such to this day. We are still tremendous friends even though we are separated by great distances and very rarely see each other in person.

This is where the faith and trust part comes in. Twenty years ago one adventure was quite adventurous. Years later my friend's current husband found about this event. It has caused difficulties between them. He does not believe him when she says that our relationship was not platonic. He insists something must have happened. She says no, but he says it can't be. It leaves me scratching my head that he cannot believe his mate, the person he has pledged to spend the rest of his life with. They have children and she is committed to the relationship, but he does not seem to have faith that she will remain his if she continues to see me as a friend.

I bit of intuition revealed that my friend's husband may have had events in his life that cause inherent insecurities, ones that originate years prior to meeting my friend. I suspect this does not bode well for this matter being sorted out, but love can lead to faith and trust and I hope this for them!

What do you think? Am I missing something here?

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